It’s not about doing the things you love,
it’s about doing things with the one you love!
If this phrase doesn’t just speak to you, you are not ready to be in any serious relationship. I know, I’m sounding a bit negative in my opening statement and I don’t really mean to…I just don’t know any other way to put it out there.
I just saw a movie that absolutely spoke to me. It was the “story of my life” for the past several years. (I think I’m done with cliches now.)
In The Break Up, Brooke & Gary are having great times together (or so it seems) until it all blows up one night. She says that he’s not invested in their relationship, he says he works hard. The problem is, they have a different definition of what makes a relationship strong and successful. In opening montages, you see them meet, get together, move in together and you see their lives evolve. *I really enjoyed how the main characters were developed and you connect with them but it doesn’t take half the damn movie!* Then, we come to this one night that I mentioned earlier and they break up; problem is, they own this condo together.
Brooke & Gary really have two completely different backgrounds – he is a “family business” kinda guy and she is well educated and works at an art gallery – and I could really see how this caused riffs in their relationship. He liked to go to sporting events, play video games on his big TV and the main focus of his social time seemed to be drinking. She wanted to periodically go to the ballet or take dancing lessons or have a nice dinner party but always seemed to give in to whatever he wanted to do.
Okay, I’m starting to spoil the movie. Fact is, I could really relate to the characters in this story. When Jim & I broke up, it was much like this. I loved him still but we just had such different needs in our lives at the time. By the time we were maybe ready to work on putting the pieces back together, they didn’t seem to be from the same puzzle anymore. It really hurt, and for a long time. Honestly, it was probably the most serious relationship I’d ever have. I think when I have moments that I’m sad and lonely, it’s not necessarily that I miss him (although, he is a great guy…just not for me), I miss what we had when things were really in their peak. Have I let the good one get away? I don’t think so. Somewhere, there’s a person who holds the piece from the same puzzle.
Anyways, YES, it’s a chick flick but that shouldn’t keep guys from going to see it if you really want a view into what a woman is thinking and wants. BUT, you must NOT watch it from the point of view of the jackass bartender…even though he is HILLARIOUS! This is a very funny movie, even with its serious topic. 4.5 out of 5 stars.
Okay, I’ve gotta go take out the trash and dig all the Whoppers out of the bottom of my purse. 🙂